Signs of dating a loser

He said he was a writer, so that was clearly, for me at least, a major plus.The idyllic cottage was monstrously untidy, littered with papers, dusty and dirty and he was fusty and not very clean either. We had arranged to meet in a pub opposite Reading Station.

Indeed, somehow, the exciting, available, baggage-free, super-bright, glamorous, successful age-appropriate people of both sexes, the kind you’d love to meet for a fantastic evening, if not for a lifetime, are in short supply or non-existent.

Yet on internet sites, there are dozens, hundreds, possibly even thousands of single people seemingly just like you, all looking for that special person to alleviate their loneliness and provide excitement and companionship for their later years.

Henning Wiechers, who conducted the recent survey on behalf of Metaflake, the vast German online dating agency, claimed that when people are too old to go clubbing, they need to access a second marriage market — and that the internet provides the perfect forum. While online dating is certainly booming in popularity — the industry is worth £170 million in the UK, with nine million of us now logging on in the hope that we will find somebody, otherwise unreachable, who will be just right for us — my experiences should serve as something of a warning to others looking for love online.

None seemed to have any of the extra pounds that actually counted, namely money.

I read that they were ‘mortgage slaves’ — at 60 plus! Not only did he expect me to buy my own drinks — I’m old-fashioned enough to believe that a man should pay on the first date — but it turned out he had huge baggage.